Sorry, no photos or wonderful documents to share. Ruhama is in the 1850 census. Her husband, died in December 1839 according to his probate. At the time of his death, his wife and children are mentioned in the probate with Samuel L Smith husband to Sally as executor.
According to many online trees, Ruhama has various death dates. All seem to be without documentation. Was this erroneously taken from Joshua's probate? Even a grave marker has the date of 1832, but the stone is too faint to read. If she is in the 1850 census with her son and mentioned in the February 1840 probate, I doubt the reading on the grave marker is correct.
Another site, "Our Family Tree, " offers 1853 as a death date. But again, no sources! I must apologize, as many of my tree items have no sources. That will be my project this next year. It is embarrassing to be asked, "Where did that come from? or, How do you know that?" and have to answer, "I don't know."
My interest in this family is the given name Alanson and New York. My Dunham research has Alanson Hickok married into the Dunham family. Alanson Hickok moved to northeast Wisconsin in the mid 1800s.
Happy tree climbing and roots digging,